When most people picture ADHD, they imagine an energetic young boy bouncing off the walls. Yet, this stereotype often leaves girls unseen.
Many girls internalise their struggles, disguising ADHD as shyness, perfectionism, or simple daydreaming. As a result, countless women only receive a diagnosis much later in life – often in their 30s or 40s.
ADHD in girls frequently presents in less obvious ways. While boys may show clear hyperactivity or impulsivity, girls often seem distracted, overly talkative, disorganised, or emotionally sensitive.
Cultural expectations can add another layer of difficulty
Society tends to reward girls for being “good” – tidy, polite, and well-behaved. When they fall short, their struggles may be dismissed as laziness or moodiness rather than recognised as ADHD.
Many girls also work hard to mask their challenges. Hours of extra effort may keep up the appearance of doing well at school or fitting in socially, but this overcompensation makes it harder for teachers and parents to see the problem.
Complicating matters further, girls are more likely to have the inattentive subtype of ADHD – which is less disruptive in the classroom and therefore easier to overlook.
Other conditions such as anxiety or depression are often diagnosed first, pushing ADHD to the background. Teachers and parents may simply not be familiar with how ADHD shows up differently in girls, meaning difficulties are internalised rather than addressed.
This can lead to low self-esteem, emotional overwhelm, and missed opportunities for early intervention.
Awareness is key
A professional assessment can open the door to appropriate support, helping children – and women – with ADHD to thrive.
Parents and caregivers can explore this further at an interactive Neurodiversity Parenting Workshop, sponsored by Old Mutual in partnership with The Neuroverse and Nutripaeds. It takes place at The Forum, The Campus (Johannesburg) on Saturday, 13 September 2025.
Tickets cost R650 and include snacks, a light lunch, a goodie bag, and the chance to win practical prizes.
Book at www.babyyumyum.com or via Quicket.
